Love Me

We say we want someone to love us as we are but . . .
really we want to to accept us as we are and love us for what we will be tomorrow.

The Conscious Man

These are guidelines nothing more than pointing in a direction.

Taking his reading as a perfect reflection of every conscious man is absolutely a corruption of my INTENT.

There are as many variations as there are men.

The intent is to give women some measure of the opposite partner evolution. When considering any type of partnership!

It alls boils down to this....

The conscious man respects women, loves women,admires women. And craves that respect in return.

All the rest is bullshit and white noise. If his actions do not respect you he is not a conscious man.

There are 3 catches here:

1. respect is defined by what his masculinity thinks is respect not what your femininity thinks is respect.
2. every man defines respect differently.
3. no conscious man is respectful 100% of the time.

Mature Masculine Gender Respect
Can bask peacefully in admiration of his attraction energy for her without needing anything more.

In detail what this mean is he can be physically sexually attracted to you and will enjoy basking in that energy of attraction without needing release, reciprocal action or acknowledgement.  In fact you may never know because it looks from the outside as if he is unchanged unaffected by you.

It does not mean he will support you verbally like your girlfriends do.
It does not mean he will listen to you like your girlfriends do.
It does not mean he will pay attention to you like your girlfriends do.
It does not mean he will provide for you like you want him to.
It does not mean he will go dancing with you.
It does not mean he will like talking anymore than he used to.
It does not mean he will analyze your relationship like you do.
It does not mean he will be as aware of you as you are of him.
It does not mean he will he won't ignore you at times.
It does not mean he will he won't go silent and withdrawal into a cave or silence.
It does not mean he will he will give up being an efficiency expert.
He is not feminine energy.  He is not you.
He will honor you with his presence.
He will respect your ability to follow, flow and create beauty.
He will give you his heart and never question his decision.
He will die for you.
He will in times of crises come to your aid.
He will push you towards being more conscious.
He will encourage your healthy boundaries.
He will ask you to at times be silent.
He will get frustrated with your stories.
He will not understand your, at times, lack of direction.
He will not get why you thrive on beauty.
He will encourage you to evolve consciously. But not push you.
He will challenge you to be aware of what you are doing, thinking, saying, being.
He will hold a space for you to be you while all the time noticing who you are (and are not).
He will know you better than you know yourself.
If you ask his advice it may be too blunt but it will come from deep inside his heart.

If you "need" emotional excitement this guy is not for you he value harmony to highly to go there.

A conscious man has safe boundry's about permission and consent.  He will not take your surrender but given the permission and consent will ravish you.

I need to clarify how I see permission and consent.  This is not the literal ask and get a verbal answer. I se this as an inquiry into what she wants/likes/desires and then offering a SAFE place for that experience to happen.  The flip here is it is Not about you determining what to ask permission for, BUT instead inquiring into what she want permission for and if feeling safe will give her consent for. Since safety is big part. Your/my job is to be completely OK at all times at anything being a "no" from her.  There is no safe place to say "yes" to you until she knows you will act on her "no", immediately without question.

The conscious man does not pursue women without an invitation.  He will not waste his energy.  He demands being met half way, well at least part way.  If you do not use your words to tell him his invitations are welcome he might not pursue, in fact he might miss your nonverbal HINTS.  His consciousness desires a conscious verbal invitation from you.  Just like your intuitive subtle body reading capacity wants him to be able to read your HINTS.

Both sides want to be meet and seen/valued in their natural habitat.  Yes he needs to learn to read you just as you need to learn to use your words with him.  Yes, it can be exhausting for both of you to operate outside of your natural way of being.  You only have to do this if you want a relationship together.

You do NOT always have to operate inside of the other person's habitat of communication.  That would be too hard.  But you do need to be aware of the gap and have the tools to address it.  Because the gap does not go away over time it only comes up to get resolved until you become natural at identifying it an resolving it in real time.

As an evolved woman your greatest challenge with a conscious man maybe how you handle your ever present desire to have him improve your environment for you.  Unless you distinguish the ability to discern the critical from the merely important he will feel your requests as a never ending to do list that never makes you satisfied.  In the end he gives up, realizing nothing makes you happy permanently. . . .so why try.  Unless the emotional energy he gets back is your happiness for those tasks he did he will give up.   There are other currencies besides a women's happiness that some men need.  Read the 5 love languages and give your man the quiz to understand what currency your man values in addition to your happiness.

He will never have as much freedom as he wants to do nothing all the time and you will never be filled with as much love as you want all the time.

He must deal with his constant desire to be done and you must deal with your constant desire to be filled with more.

The conscious man is aware not sensitive.  He notices more, he understands more and he allows for more of you to be you while not being needy, childish or demanding.

Yes being aware is more sensitive but it is not the I'm to sensitive and I need more.  It is not the I'm fragile sensitive.  It is the I'm sensitive to my environment, to my partner, to energy to the dynamics of what is happening now.  It is the martial arts (both hard and soft) sensitivity.  It is not the fragile ego type but the I notice what is going on with you type.

Sensitive ,.... not as more emotional but as allowing,... able to accept and appreciate and honor others where they are.

Will try to meet each individual where they are.

Will resist telling you what to do, believing that your doing is the learning you need most.

Does not believe he knows what is best for you and believes thinking so is a matter of hubris to be avoided. But will make the mistake of believing his knows.

What you believe, he believes is personal, not to be infringed upon by force or persuasion.  As is also what he believes personal and expects the same freedoms in reverse.

Can make a women feel feminine, loved, secure and appreciated even though he is not sexually attracted and maybe even inspite of being sexually attracted!

Knows how to lead AND knows how to follow.

If you have his love he will lay down his life for you.  He will insert himself doing what he does best trying to make things better for you.  He will not do what you think is best but only what he does best.

His love is not to answer your every whim. When you use him for every small thing He resents you because he knows there is no hero in those small things.  He wants to be your hero not your man-servant. He wants to be on a mission worthy of his love.  Sorry, but re-arranging you furniture yet again does not qualify as a mission to him.  But sometimes it might if it is his idea.  I mean one he thinks is going to solve a problem he sees.

THE PATH

Events will conspire to bring your consciousness to where ever it is need next and for how long it is needed.

Injury to hand hip both falling while on bikes. Part of healing my body.

Rule of 3 to avoid the 2x4 of life.

Synchronistic events will repeat that can guide you to where you are suppose to be next.  They are hints you can voluntarily follow and if you don't you risk some major event causing more disruption to your life.  PEMF for sleep, PEMF Brian, PEMF Larisa.

At first I was doing out of the habit of doing. My programming.
Next  I was doing out of my need to feel valuable to myself.
Next  I was doing out of my need to feel valuable to others.
Next, I was doing out of it was health balance to resting (being).
Eventually, I was doing out of my wanting to contribute.
Eventually, I was doing for all the reasons above.

success, happiness and the conscious man (needs story example)

The conscious man is aware of so much more than the unconscious man.  Some call this mindfulness, other call this being present, a popular label is being in the now.  Internal awareness like emotions physical sensation, intent and motivations,. . . . external awareness like environment, people's reactions, group dynamics,.......

How does the conscious human differ from the unaware human when it comes to happiness and success?

It is in his/her ability to embrace every moment more deeply. (needs story)

Like relationship beginnings,,,...... both people more deeply look into, pay more attention to, attend more closely to.... each other.

This more complete absorption into every moment, event, person is the key to the conscious humans happiness.  This ability to become totally absorbed into what ever he/she puts their attention on is the secret to their success.

While the less aware human complain about something the more aware gets busy and curious about what is happening.  The total attention allows seeing patterns, connection and  having insights that alters his/her interactions to a positive effect.

While the less aware human give up, blames others and finds less to do the more aware gets interested in learning, growing, experimenting.  The 110% presence creates opportunity, fosters new relationships and alters perspective with new information so he/she can try again.

Unconscious expectations equal unhappiness and frustration.  The conscious human has worked diligently too remove, notice, become aware of the expectations created by him/herself.  When things do not go optimally the first thing they do is reflect and assess themselves for what expectations they created.  They take responsibility and take steps to clean up any residual fallout their unconscious action built on unconscious expectation created.

conscious is grateful for every new awareness and often seeks out more.
while the less conscious seems to avoid any new thought or points of view.

Gender Attraction Topics

There are several important issues to reconcile when it comes to male-female attraction.

Men can get hooked on physical attraction.
Women can get hooked on emotional attraction.
Asking women to give up their emotional body is as unnatural as it is to to ask men to stop looking at the physical body.  Both are deeply implanted, maybe even genetic, behavior patterns.  They have a work for ages in advertising and attracting a mate.  Just because somebody becomes spiritual, religious or Enlightened, does not mean these deeply embedded traits go away.

There is one segment of the feminist movement that would condemn men for this trait.
And yes there is a segment of men who unrealistically expect women to give up their emotional body.
Since I don't see either of these expectations to be realistic outcomes, I want to ask, what are realistic expectations.

Clearly women want to be valued for more than just their body.  And men want to be valued for more than their resources.

Recognizing and celebrating your differences.  . .
Women are usually more concerned with physical sensations and feeling love.  Women tend to value feeling secure and receiving attention.  Knowing this helps understand why more women are attracted to yoga, dance and soap operas.  Don't make her wrong for this.  Instead encourage her to participate in life in those areas that feed her/nourish her.  But also don't expect him to enjoy what brings you alive.

Men are usually are more concerned with status and mental thought.  Men tend to value status and feeling success.  Knowing this helps us understand why more men are attracted to competition, racing and arguing about rules.  Don't make him wrong for this. Instead encourage him to participate in life in those areas that feed him/nourish him.  But also don't expect her to enjoy what brings you alive.

When she gets triggered she throws up on me emotionally.  Yes. That the way she works.  It is not your job to confront, stop it, or try to fix her.  It is your job to weather the storm, to stay solid in your love for her, to not run away.  If you do not take it personally, if you allow it roll off you and not get hooked into it you will become more valuable to her.  She can be who she is and not fear making you leave. (security)

When he gets triggered he throws anger at me  Yes. That the way he works.  It is not your job to confront him, stop him or fix him.  It is your job to weather the storm, to stay solid in your self worth, to not make him wrong for having anger.  If physical danger is involved you must protect yourself, and remove yourself.  If you do not make him wrong for experiencing anger, if you allow him to constructively work through it you will become more valuable to him.  He can be who he is and not fear NOT making you happy. (failing with you).

Obsession
Mission, #1

Alpha
submissive

ego
emotions

Men leave for many many reasons
Men cheat for many many reasons
Attempts to reduce actions to ONE rational reason are  false conclusions

Rating Confidence Bullshit

If you are rating a man's attractive personality on,..... if he is confident with you and women.
You have incorrectly linked two traits.
A man can be completely a confident person in life and still be uneasy with women.

Uneasy can often be due to not understanding women.  Not because he is not good at navigating the world.

How?  No sisters. Not having a mother who could teach him. Late bloomer. Lack of opportunity.  Lack of experience. Lack of good teachers.  Lack of access to quality information.  You are different than the other women he dealt with.`

Because he spends his time trying to figure out how to survive in a Masculine world.  He figures out men and gets confident to survive but never has a chance to figure out women.  Since women are so different than men his knowledge base for dealing with women is filled with bad data.  So of course he does and says the wrong things.  To make matters worse he has other men who don't really understand women giving him advice.

One must observe the men over time, to determine who and what he is.

These pre-canned judgements we use to make our life decisions easier must be put away.

Sure some of them turn out to be valid.

Alpha male crap

Wrong direction, It is not about being alpha it's about being conscious, not partly conscious, 100% conscious. It is about not shutting down/contracting./losing yourself awareness in any event.   It is not about mastering others it is about mastering yourself.  It is not safety she wants most, it is your consciousness to navigate life and her.

Alpha can only dominate her, he can not bring her more consciousness than she already has.  Her longing for spirit is only satisfied by a supremely conscious man.

Let's leave women out of this discussion
for a minute. Just for a little bit,
anyway.

Have you ever wondered what it is that a
successful guy has that the "average"
guy doesn't?

And I'm not talking about the obvious
tangible things, like money, or a nice
car, or a house. Those are not thecause, they're the EFFECT.

The personality traits that a dominant
man displays are what give him the
success he enjoys, both psychologically
as well as financially.

Re read that. It's actually pretty
important.

(And yes, those things - money, car,
house - translate into success with
women, but not in the way that you
think. But wait, I said I was leaving
women out of this for a minute...)

I personally started out very low in the
pecking order. I was what you would have
considered a "Nice Guy." I was
easygoing. I liked to keep things cool
and mellow. You know, where you can keep
everyone getting along with each other.
I wasn't very Alpha.

Conflict just makes things more
difficult, right? Then no one has any
fun.

So I became the diplomat. The guy to
keep things running smooth and cool.

The problem is, I started doing this in
all areas of my life. I started avoiding
and de-fusing conflict and confrontation
wherever it came into my world.

I did this in my career, my family, and
most often in my dating life.

I didn't realize that I was actuallysabotaging myself by trying to AVOIDconflict instead of MANAGING conflict.

If you're a nice guy, or if you've beenone for any period of time, or SUSPECTyou might be, you might be nodding yourhead already at what I'm saying. But letme finish; there's something else Ithink you'll relate to...

(Now let's bring women back into the
picture. Forget for a minute that I'm
going to show you a proven method to
improve your life, your career, your
friendships, your prosperity... )

I also discovered that I was a little
bitter. I was angry at all the guys who
seemed to be getting the women I thought
*I* should be getting. I mean, I'm somuch BETTER than these jerks. What doTHEY have that I don't have?

I got angrier and angrier about this
because I thought I was being ignored,
and these dweebs who didn't have half
the goods I did were getting the hot
women.

Do you want to know why nice guys finish
last?

Here's why....

You ready for this?

I'm reminded of Jack Nicholson's line:
"You can't handle the truth!"

But I know you can handle this.

Nice guys finish last because ...

... we're not really being "nice."

It's true. We're not as nice as we might
think when we sacrifice our own desires
and needs to accommodate and supplicate
to women. When we try to be "nice" we're
showing a woman that we don't have
natural qualities to attract them, and
we're denying our masculinity.

You see, by being nice, we're actuallydoing the WRONG thing for women.

What Nice Guys have got to do is bringout this "nice" quality WITH our innateDOMINANCE.

Women need to see guys who are capableof being STRONG and protecting them, notgiving up their Alpha Male Power towomen. They have to learn how to mix inthe assertive behaviors that will showwomen that we are fit to be their mates.And this means short term as well aslong term.

Women want STRONG Alpha Men. Guys whocan lead them and protect them.

Don't make the mistake of believing that
women want jerks. They only desire
certain Alpha qualities the jerk
possesses and that the Nice Guy is
afraid to show.

These Alpha qualities act like a potent
drug on her nervous system, blinding her
(temporarily) to the reality of the
Jerk's bad influence. Eventually she
finds herself emotionally locked to
someone she doesn't like, but can't seem
to get away from.

Ask a drug addict sometime if they like
the drug that addicts them. They'll tellyou NO, but they can't stop going backto it.

Now, there are a lot of dating guides
out there. Dating tips and secrets on
how to entrance and captivate women are
important, but what about improvingyourself WHILE you're looking to getwomen?

Become a better man physically ...
mentally ... spiritually ... financially
... romantically ...

What about becoming a guy who knows ALLthe rules of the dating game? And the

game of LIFE?

Let me throw you a quick pop quiz. No
need to get a pen and paper, just nod or
shake your head...

- Do you ever find yourself feeling
nervous and uncertain when you're around
women? And you don't want to use stupid
pickup lines that don't work?

- Do you ever find yourself afraid to
approach a woman because you don't know
how to handle the situation? (Or because
you're afraid of her rejection?)

- Do you feel like you don't have the
assets a woman wants in a man, like
fame, wealth, a nice car, good looks? Doyou ever feel like you need to BUY awoman's affections?

- Do you want to build your status and
grow to become more of your potential?

- Have you just started to date after
divorce or a bad breakup? Do you find
yourself reluctant to go out and meet
women, that it's just too painful to go
through the hassle of dating?

- Do you want to find out more about the
unwritten Laws of Success so you can
apply them to your own life?

- Do you feel like you're playing a
"dating game" when you try to meet women
to date or just have fun with? And do
you feel like women have all the power
and make all the rules?

- Are you looking to make an investmentin YOURSELF for once, instead of justthrowing your money away on bad dates,bad investments, and bad decisions?

- Do you ever wish you could meet
beautiful women and feel confident that
you'd succeed with them?

- Do you feel ashamed of your ability to
approach women, and that you don't know
where to go to get dating tips and help
understanding seduction?

First of all, these feelings are totallyNORMAL. Every guy has had them at onepoint or another.

But what will set you apart is what youDO about it. What are you willing to doto improve your dating and seductionskills to get more women into your life?

You see, most guys will never learn how
to handle the situations I asked you
about in those questions, and then they
will never get the dating success they
desire. They will let their egos get in
their way, refusing to admit that they
don't know it all.

They may NEVER get to be an Alpha Male.

I know that you're the kind of guy who
wants to do better, or else you wouldn't
be a subscriber to the newsletters or
read our blog. You want to know how to
improve, and you're willing to put aside
your ego to accomplish it.

I salute you for your humility and
ambition for excellence.

So, let me cut to the chase...

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Mature personality

Just as the evolved man no longer needs to dominate.  Neither does that you've all female experience the need to be desired.  The evolved man no longer needs to be right at the expense of another.  And the evolved woman no longer creates drama of the emotions just to feel.

Yes the evolved man still appreciates the rightness of something working but it is held in balance within a larger system of community with others.  And of course the  evolved woman still enjoys the pleasures of feeling but that too is held in the balance of the right time the right place and the right community within which to express those pleasures.

Beyond youth and beauty,
beyond wealth and success,
These represent a focus on the outer forms
must include and focus on the inner forms
love ,,,,, the ability to love, the compassion they represent, the ability to be loved

If you are on a spiritual path, then you do not want to being a relationship with those who are attracted to mostly the outer forms.   Because to do so, will take you off your own inner path. This goes for all of your relationships friends, coworkers, healers and teachers,.... as well as romantic relationships.

DATING SYSTEMS SELL TO MEN BUT DON'T WORK

DATING SYSTEMS SELL TO MEN (based on the claims of predictability) BUT DON'T WORK
WHY SYSTEMS DON'T WORK

any women a system works on will take future convincing because she never had conviction of her own emotional truth so even if it does work in the short run it will likely fall apart in the long run staying together will require future interventions of unique manipulations.  Do you really want a women you have to run a system on to keep? Is that someone you will respect?

Men are attracted to wanting a system that works.  This is part of masculine energy.  So those who claim to have a system to get a women to like you,..... SELL REALLY REALLY WELL but do not work.  Why? Because every person is slightly different and approaching a women with routines is detectable.  Like this sale pitch below.

DATING TECHNIQUES SELL TO WOMEN (based on the claims of emotional satisfaction) BUT DON'T WORK
any man tricked is not really committed anyway so even if it does work in the short run it will likely fall apart in the long run staying together will require future interventions of unique manipulations.  Do you really want a man you have to manipulate on to keep?  Is that someone you will respect?

I think I told you this before…

But I used to be a SUPER PRUDE 

when it came to guys I really liked…

Because, again, I didn’t want him to 

think I was a “hoe” or anything…

So I’d always be more sexxually

reserved than how I am with you in here

haha ;-)

(In fact EVERY girl is like this when she

REALLY likes a guy, remember?)

But when my man now and I started 

talking…which was ONLY via text at

first…

I started…doing…RIDICULOUSLY

slutty things at his every command O_O

(AHH!  Don’t judge lol!)

This may surprise you, though…

When he would start turning up the heat

through text…he almost never came up

with new texts hahaha

So, yes, I was a sucker for the same

sh*t EVERY TIME…!

And truth be told he could’ve used the

same texts on OTHER girls…

But either way I was texting him how

badly I wanted his c0ck in my mouth

and sending him “Hump Day” pics in

no time lol!!

Which means almost every text he sent

was LITERALLY pre-written… 

…and furthermore, *proven* to always

get me to get his little sex slave ;-)

And after careful analysis of all the past

stuff he’d used on me before…

I found a guy who outlined this entire 

“proven” way to get girls hooked and hot

and hopelessly devoted to you and only

you…

Sure it is possible to learn something from this person's system.  Absolutely. What? That is going to be up to you because each of you are different from me.

The biggest mistake I can put words to is how this assumes there is one fixed approach that will work on every woman.  I am a man and I can feel my own desire to have one fail safe approach that will work.  Even though I see the failure point I'm still attracted to the hope of a simple method I can master.   Living and mastering a dynamic ever changing set of interactions with women is daunting and seems like too much work for an efficiency focused man like me.

The second biggest mistake is how this caters to the hope I can get others to do what I want them to do.  That I can be the center of the world.  This injects a lack of holding space for the freewill of others.  This approach rejects respecting others as sovereign individuals.  It re-enforces an masculine authoritarian mind set.  By dismissing the negotiation/mediation/discussion approach, it reduces possible solutions to only those currently known.  Engaging in a dynamic interaction gives rise to new thoughts due to seeing new view points. It is hard to describe dynamic systems.  So you can see it is nearly impossible to sell them.  Mastering dynamic systems is like Mastering a martial art fighting technique.  It takes years of constant practice.  And yes, there are simple subsets that are teachable and sellable.  Most mistake mastering the lowest level as having mastered the whole art form. And of course that is what the sellers encourage you to think.  But when the student goes out to practice in the dynamic world of life.  The success is limited

Alpha Leadership? (the new whole man is upgraded to the conscious human)

Old thinking at it's best posed alpha leadership as an authority but one that is not shared.

The conscious new way of being has the confidence to lead when called on and share power decision making.

In more depth.....

He/She can flow between leading and following as the moment call for.  He/She can flow between masculine and feminine as the situation is best served.   Input of offered sources (opinions) is considered and freedom is offer for others to make different decisions.  But the leader continues on his/her path as their inner authority confirms.  Force is not used to coerce others to follow.  Shared decision making (consensus agreement) happens when a unified front or effort is required.   Minority Dissent is handled by invitation to leave the group.  Majority dissent is handled by group consensus.  Leadership is fluid and is shared by several men and women as individual talents are recognized.

This subject and the definition of being an authoritative leader 

(you don't have to refer to it as "alpha" if you personally choose 

not to), is of extreme importance to me, because it's the 

foundation of what I teach. I aim to provide methods, thoughts 

and knowledge for men to become what I refer to as "whole 

men" and to be respected, admired, and interesting to the 

women in their life and/or their wife, their co-workers & 

clients, friends and family. 

And this has NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING, to do with being some 

overbearing, egomaniac or a jerk in any form. That is the opposite of what 

I teach and it's also the opposite of what a true alpha is, and a true dom 

is. 

Yes, there are a lot of imposters out there, but they are nothing more than 

insecure bullies and they are a looooooooong ways from being the real 

deal. 

Here are two of the comments from men who truly understand this & 

practice this: 

#1: DOMINANCE is definitely KEY for a man to exert himself as an AUTHORITY 

figure throughout his life! When it comes to women, a dominant man 

AUTOMATICALLY draws all sorts of ladies into his life - simply by going about his 

everyday business, accomplishing his goals, and enjoying life to the FULLEST! I 

KNOW this to be true, by how I go about APPRECIATING, and CHERISHING my 

every days!!!!!

#2: Being an alpha male isn't about constantly demonstrating that you are alpha 

through bullish, blustery, or bombastic behavior; it is about exuding an aura of 

dominance and confidence in such a manner that women are naturally drawn to the 

alpha personality and are naturally inclined to submit to it.

See, these two men, like many of you, "get it".

You may recall an article I shared back on April 13th, where I discussed 

positioning your dominance & charm. In that article I used the example of 

chimpanzees, operating in their wild, natural state:

Like with almost all mammals, there is one appointed to be the alpha 

leader, which is the strongest male. Usually in chimpanzee families

there is also a 2nd and 3rd ranking male- they have some power, but

not near as much as the leader. The alpha male is authoritative, 

demanding yet not pushy, stable, secure, and confident. He isn't 

continuously jumping around,making noise, or creating havoc and chaos. 

Instead, he is quiet, goes about his business, has everything in order, and 

all of the other chimpanzees respect him- knowing that he could get 

aggressive if needed and when it is called for. It is interesting to me to 

watch the 2nd and 3rd ranking males. The 2nd ranking jumps around 

more than the alpha male, makes more noise and acts more obnoxiously 

at times... but still not as much as the 3rd ranking male. The lower the 

ranking, the more loud and obnoxious each male chimpanzee is. 

And, this is pretty much how it is with humans. Go to any bar on any 

given night, and you'll see several men who think they're hot stuff, puffing 

their chest, acting obnoxious, yelling and being loud, and doing 

everything opposite of true alpha, or "whole man", behavior. These men 

also tend to lose the respect of women quickly (if they ever do earn it in 

the first place) and they can't hold the attention & respect of others. 

People get tired of being around them, it gets old.  

Remember, to be an alpha, or a "dom"....

You want to dress properly. Not necessarily expensively, just properly.

You want to be organized & in control of your environment.

You want to cultivate your taste in cuisine, wine, and the finer things.

You want to be "sharp" with witty comments & comebacks.

You want to be a gentleman & practice chivalry (but never a pushover).

You want to develop your own style: clothing style, lifestyle, etc.

You want to always have a calm, collected way of handling issues.

You want to maintain high standards for yourself, and others.

You want to stay "up to date" on important subject matter.

You want to always be in control of your temper & emotions.

You want to eat healthily.

You want to get enough sleep. 

You want to be a romantic. (Again, not a pushover, but a true romantic.)

You want to provide her/ women with intense, passionate, lovemaking.

A man who has high standards for himself & practices self-discipline, is a 

man who will most likely to be more active, stay better rested and 

therefore clearheaded, and will also stay "well read" & informed, which 

will position him for promotions & growth (financial, career, and 

emotional growth). He'll naturally move forward. And, women 

will be naturally attracted to him. Like the point made in the first 

response I shared: Go about appreciating and cherishing your days, 

accomplish your goals, and live your life to the fullest. A man who does 

this is a respectable and admired man- by women, friends, family, plus 

colleagues, clients or employers.