If you are rating a man's attractive personality on,..... if he is confident with you and women.
You have incorrectly linked two traits.
A man can be completely a confident person in life and still be uneasy with women.
Uneasy can often be due to not understanding women. Not because he is not good at navigating the world.
How? No sisters. Not having a mother who could teach him. Late bloomer. Lack of opportunity. Lack of experience. Lack of good teachers. Lack of access to quality information. You are different than the other women he dealt with.`
Because he spends his time trying to figure out how to survive in a Masculine world. He figures out men and gets confident to survive but never has a chance to figure out women. Since women are so different than men his knowledge base for dealing with women is filled with bad data. So of course he does and says the wrong things. To make matters worse he has other men who don't really understand women giving him advice.
One must observe the men over time, to determine who and what he is.
These pre-canned judgements we use to make our life decisions easier must be put away.
Sure some of them turn out to be valid.
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