DATING SYSTEMS SELL TO MEN BUT DON'T WORK

DATING SYSTEMS SELL TO MEN (based on the claims of predictability) BUT DON'T WORK
WHY SYSTEMS DON'T WORK

any women a system works on will take future convincing because she never had conviction of her own emotional truth so even if it does work in the short run it will likely fall apart in the long run staying together will require future interventions of unique manipulations.  Do you really want a women you have to run a system on to keep? Is that someone you will respect?

Men are attracted to wanting a system that works.  This is part of masculine energy.  So those who claim to have a system to get a women to like you,..... SELL REALLY REALLY WELL but do not work.  Why? Because every person is slightly different and approaching a women with routines is detectable.  Like this sale pitch below.

DATING TECHNIQUES SELL TO WOMEN (based on the claims of emotional satisfaction) BUT DON'T WORK
any man tricked is not really committed anyway so even if it does work in the short run it will likely fall apart in the long run staying together will require future interventions of unique manipulations.  Do you really want a man you have to manipulate on to keep?  Is that someone you will respect?

I think I told you this before…

But I used to be a SUPER PRUDE 

when it came to guys I really liked…

Because, again, I didn’t want him to 

think I was a “hoe” or anything…

So I’d always be more sexxually

reserved than how I am with you in here

haha ;-)

(In fact EVERY girl is like this when she

REALLY likes a guy, remember?)

But when my man now and I started 

talking…which was ONLY via text at

first…

I started…doing…RIDICULOUSLY

slutty things at his every command O_O

(AHH!  Don’t judge lol!)

This may surprise you, though…

When he would start turning up the heat

through text…he almost never came up

with new texts hahaha

So, yes, I was a sucker for the same

sh*t EVERY TIME…!

And truth be told he could’ve used the

same texts on OTHER girls…

But either way I was texting him how

badly I wanted his c0ck in my mouth

and sending him “Hump Day” pics in

no time lol!!

Which means almost every text he sent

was LITERALLY pre-written… 

…and furthermore, *proven* to always

get me to get his little sex slave ;-)

And after careful analysis of all the past

stuff he’d used on me before…

I found a guy who outlined this entire 

“proven” way to get girls hooked and hot

and hopelessly devoted to you and only

you…

Sure it is possible to learn something from this person's system.  Absolutely. What? That is going to be up to you because each of you are different from me.

The biggest mistake I can put words to is how this assumes there is one fixed approach that will work on every woman.  I am a man and I can feel my own desire to have one fail safe approach that will work.  Even though I see the failure point I'm still attracted to the hope of a simple method I can master.   Living and mastering a dynamic ever changing set of interactions with women is daunting and seems like too much work for an efficiency focused man like me.

The second biggest mistake is how this caters to the hope I can get others to do what I want them to do.  That I can be the center of the world.  This injects a lack of holding space for the freewill of others.  This approach rejects respecting others as sovereign individuals.  It re-enforces an masculine authoritarian mind set.  By dismissing the negotiation/mediation/discussion approach, it reduces possible solutions to only those currently known.  Engaging in a dynamic interaction gives rise to new thoughts due to seeing new view points. It is hard to describe dynamic systems.  So you can see it is nearly impossible to sell them.  Mastering dynamic systems is like Mastering a martial art fighting technique.  It takes years of constant practice.  And yes, there are simple subsets that are teachable and sellable.  Most mistake mastering the lowest level as having mastered the whole art form. And of course that is what the sellers encourage you to think.  But when the student goes out to practice in the dynamic world of life.  The success is limited

Alpha Leadership? (the new whole man is upgraded to the conscious human)

Old thinking at it's best posed alpha leadership as an authority but one that is not shared.

The conscious new way of being has the confidence to lead when called on and share power decision making.

In more depth.....

He/She can flow between leading and following as the moment call for.  He/She can flow between masculine and feminine as the situation is best served.   Input of offered sources (opinions) is considered and freedom is offer for others to make different decisions.  But the leader continues on his/her path as their inner authority confirms.  Force is not used to coerce others to follow.  Shared decision making (consensus agreement) happens when a unified front or effort is required.   Minority Dissent is handled by invitation to leave the group.  Majority dissent is handled by group consensus.  Leadership is fluid and is shared by several men and women as individual talents are recognized.

This subject and the definition of being an authoritative leader 

(you don't have to refer to it as "alpha" if you personally choose 

not to), is of extreme importance to me, because it's the 

foundation of what I teach. I aim to provide methods, thoughts 

and knowledge for men to become what I refer to as "whole 

men" and to be respected, admired, and interesting to the 

women in their life and/or their wife, their co-workers & 

clients, friends and family. 

And this has NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING, to do with being some 

overbearing, egomaniac or a jerk in any form. That is the opposite of what 

I teach and it's also the opposite of what a true alpha is, and a true dom 

is. 

Yes, there are a lot of imposters out there, but they are nothing more than 

insecure bullies and they are a looooooooong ways from being the real 

deal. 

Here are two of the comments from men who truly understand this & 

practice this: 

#1: DOMINANCE is definitely KEY for a man to exert himself as an AUTHORITY 

figure throughout his life! When it comes to women, a dominant man 

AUTOMATICALLY draws all sorts of ladies into his life - simply by going about his 

everyday business, accomplishing his goals, and enjoying life to the FULLEST! I 

KNOW this to be true, by how I go about APPRECIATING, and CHERISHING my 

every days!!!!!

#2: Being an alpha male isn't about constantly demonstrating that you are alpha 

through bullish, blustery, or bombastic behavior; it is about exuding an aura of 

dominance and confidence in such a manner that women are naturally drawn to the 

alpha personality and are naturally inclined to submit to it.

See, these two men, like many of you, "get it".

You may recall an article I shared back on April 13th, where I discussed 

positioning your dominance & charm. In that article I used the example of 

chimpanzees, operating in their wild, natural state:

Like with almost all mammals, there is one appointed to be the alpha 

leader, which is the strongest male. Usually in chimpanzee families

there is also a 2nd and 3rd ranking male- they have some power, but

not near as much as the leader. The alpha male is authoritative, 

demanding yet not pushy, stable, secure, and confident. He isn't 

continuously jumping around,making noise, or creating havoc and chaos. 

Instead, he is quiet, goes about his business, has everything in order, and 

all of the other chimpanzees respect him- knowing that he could get 

aggressive if needed and when it is called for. It is interesting to me to 

watch the 2nd and 3rd ranking males. The 2nd ranking jumps around 

more than the alpha male, makes more noise and acts more obnoxiously 

at times... but still not as much as the 3rd ranking male. The lower the 

ranking, the more loud and obnoxious each male chimpanzee is. 

And, this is pretty much how it is with humans. Go to any bar on any 

given night, and you'll see several men who think they're hot stuff, puffing 

their chest, acting obnoxious, yelling and being loud, and doing 

everything opposite of true alpha, or "whole man", behavior. These men 

also tend to lose the respect of women quickly (if they ever do earn it in 

the first place) and they can't hold the attention & respect of others. 

People get tired of being around them, it gets old.  

Remember, to be an alpha, or a "dom"....

You want to dress properly. Not necessarily expensively, just properly.

You want to be organized & in control of your environment.

You want to cultivate your taste in cuisine, wine, and the finer things.

You want to be "sharp" with witty comments & comebacks.

You want to be a gentleman & practice chivalry (but never a pushover).

You want to develop your own style: clothing style, lifestyle, etc.

You want to always have a calm, collected way of handling issues.

You want to maintain high standards for yourself, and others.

You want to stay "up to date" on important subject matter.

You want to always be in control of your temper & emotions.

You want to eat healthily.

You want to get enough sleep. 

You want to be a romantic. (Again, not a pushover, but a true romantic.)

You want to provide her/ women with intense, passionate, lovemaking.

A man who has high standards for himself & practices self-discipline, is a 

man who will most likely to be more active, stay better rested and 

therefore clearheaded, and will also stay "well read" & informed, which 

will position him for promotions & growth (financial, career, and 

emotional growth). He'll naturally move forward. And, women 

will be naturally attracted to him. Like the point made in the first 

response I shared: Go about appreciating and cherishing your days, 

accomplish your goals, and live your life to the fullest. A man who does 

this is a respectable and admired man- by women, friends, family, plus 

colleagues, clients or employers. 

If he really wanted me BullShit

In short, the conscious man wastes not his energy trying to change you or or mind.  He will not hunt/pursue you endlessly.  If you are not putting some work/effort into the relationship he will move on.  Below is the old un-evolved thinking. This thought that if he really really wanted me he would do anything to get you.  Is part of the princess wanting to be swept off her feet by a hero.  This disneyland thinking,   A conscious man wants a women  who will take care of herself, be responsible for herself, not be so passive all the time.  He respects your NO.  He may still want to be your hero at times.  But he sees other people he can help that do not require saving or so much effort.

A conscious man wants a better integrated woman than the princess. He wants one who has learned to appropriately express her masculine as well as her feminine.  Demanding that your hero crawl through broken glass to win you only leaves you with a hurting and broken man. The conscious man who loves and respects himself will not cripple or lessen himself just to GET you because he has bigger, vaster, plans he is in service of.

This is princess behavior not the queen.

It seems like the little girl with unresolved Daddy issues (like being spoiled) instead of the conscious woman who wants an equal partnership.

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Hello hello, Clark ;-)

OK so this past week I’ve been telling

you all about these Girly Gossip

Sessions I’ve been having…

And this LAST one I had with my friend

Latin Lisa REALLY takes the cake

So she met this guy on Tinder…

And has been talking to

FOREVERRRRRR NOW!

Meaning they talk ALL THE TIME.

So I’m on the phone with her today and

she says to me, 

“I don’t get it…he’s not really talking to

me anymore…he’s totally over me isn’t

he?!”

In my opinion, he is based on her even

THINKING it…so I tell her to send me

screen shots of their texts…

And ya wanna know what I found?

Him: I’d like to take you to dinner some

time this week when are you free?

Latin Lisa: Oh I’m super busy this

week…maybe next week!

*Next week*

Him: Hey gorgeous I know this great

restaurant on the water in Malibu, you

free Friday or Saturday?

Latin Lisa: Sorryyyyyy I have plans

those days!

So I asked Latin Lisa, “You turned him

down TWICE what do you expect?!”

Ya wanna know her ANSWER?!

Latin Lisa says to me, “Well

WHATEVER if he really WANTS ME

he’ll do whatever it takes to have me…

THAT’S a real man!

Plus I’m not easy…so this just shows he

wants an easy girl.”

WHAAAAAT?!

Can you believe Latin Lisa said AND

believes that?!

Sadly, I can…

Listen…as ladies our BIGGEST FEAR is

for you to see us as EASY…

And in Latin Lisa’s case…

Some girls just take it WAAAAY too far!

But…

BUT…!!!!

She has a point.

If you want us…COME AND GET US!

And if you DO have at LEAST our
attention...don't drop the ball just cuz you're

not the best texter!

Showing us you WANT US is the only

thing that’s gonna separate you from all

the other people in our lives…

From every other stranger out there…

From every other DOG out there!

Most dogs sit around WAITING for their

treat.

Wolves go out and GET IT.

And you KNOW that’s what you are ;-)

Granted…

It’s easier said and done.