The Conscious Man

These are guidelines nothing more than pointing in a direction.

Taking his reading as a perfect reflection of every conscious man is absolutely a corruption of my INTENT.

There are as many variations as there are men.

The intent is to give women some measure of the opposite partner evolution. When considering any type of partnership!

It alls boils down to this....

The conscious man respects women, loves women,admires women. And craves that respect in return.

All the rest is bullshit and white noise. If his actions do not respect you he is not a conscious man.

There are 3 catches here:

1. respect is defined by what his masculinity thinks is respect not what your femininity thinks is respect.
2. every man defines respect differently.
3. no conscious man is respectful 100% of the time.

Mature Masculine Gender Respect
Can bask peacefully in admiration of his attraction energy for her without needing anything more.

In detail what this mean is he can be physically sexually attracted to you and will enjoy basking in that energy of attraction without needing release, reciprocal action or acknowledgement.  In fact you may never know because it looks from the outside as if he is unchanged unaffected by you.

It does not mean he will support you verbally like your girlfriends do.
It does not mean he will listen to you like your girlfriends do.
It does not mean he will pay attention to you like your girlfriends do.
It does not mean he will provide for you like you want him to.
It does not mean he will go dancing with you.
It does not mean he will like talking anymore than he used to.
It does not mean he will analyze your relationship like you do.
It does not mean he will be as aware of you as you are of him.
It does not mean he will he won't ignore you at times.
It does not mean he will he won't go silent and withdrawal into a cave or silence.
It does not mean he will he will give up being an efficiency expert.
He is not feminine energy.  He is not you.
He will honor you with his presence.
He will respect your ability to follow, flow and create beauty.
He will give you his heart and never question his decision.
He will die for you.
He will in times of crises come to your aid.
He will push you towards being more conscious.
He will encourage your healthy boundaries.
He will ask you to at times be silent.
He will get frustrated with your stories.
He will not understand your, at times, lack of direction.
He will not get why you thrive on beauty.
He will encourage you to evolve consciously. But not push you.
He will challenge you to be aware of what you are doing, thinking, saying, being.
He will hold a space for you to be you while all the time noticing who you are (and are not).
He will know you better than you know yourself.
If you ask his advice it may be too blunt but it will come from deep inside his heart.

If you "need" emotional excitement this guy is not for you he value harmony to highly to go there.

A conscious man has safe boundry's about permission and consent.  He will not take your surrender but given the permission and consent will ravish you.

I need to clarify how I see permission and consent.  This is not the literal ask and get a verbal answer. I se this as an inquiry into what she wants/likes/desires and then offering a SAFE place for that experience to happen.  The flip here is it is Not about you determining what to ask permission for, BUT instead inquiring into what she want permission for and if feeling safe will give her consent for. Since safety is big part. Your/my job is to be completely OK at all times at anything being a "no" from her.  There is no safe place to say "yes" to you until she knows you will act on her "no", immediately without question.

The conscious man does not pursue women without an invitation.  He will not waste his energy.  He demands being met half way, well at least part way.  If you do not use your words to tell him his invitations are welcome he might not pursue, in fact he might miss your nonverbal HINTS.  His consciousness desires a conscious verbal invitation from you.  Just like your intuitive subtle body reading capacity wants him to be able to read your HINTS.

Both sides want to be meet and seen/valued in their natural habitat.  Yes he needs to learn to read you just as you need to learn to use your words with him.  Yes, it can be exhausting for both of you to operate outside of your natural way of being.  You only have to do this if you want a relationship together.

You do NOT always have to operate inside of the other person's habitat of communication.  That would be too hard.  But you do need to be aware of the gap and have the tools to address it.  Because the gap does not go away over time it only comes up to get resolved until you become natural at identifying it an resolving it in real time.

As an evolved woman your greatest challenge with a conscious man maybe how you handle your ever present desire to have him improve your environment for you.  Unless you distinguish the ability to discern the critical from the merely important he will feel your requests as a never ending to do list that never makes you satisfied.  In the end he gives up, realizing nothing makes you happy permanently. . . .so why try.  Unless the emotional energy he gets back is your happiness for those tasks he did he will give up.   There are other currencies besides a women's happiness that some men need.  Read the 5 love languages and give your man the quiz to understand what currency your man values in addition to your happiness.

He will never have as much freedom as he wants to do nothing all the time and you will never be filled with as much love as you want all the time.

He must deal with his constant desire to be done and you must deal with your constant desire to be filled with more.

The conscious man is aware not sensitive.  He notices more, he understands more and he allows for more of you to be you while not being needy, childish or demanding.

Yes being aware is more sensitive but it is not the I'm to sensitive and I need more.  It is not the I'm fragile sensitive.  It is the I'm sensitive to my environment, to my partner, to energy to the dynamics of what is happening now.  It is the martial arts (both hard and soft) sensitivity.  It is not the fragile ego type but the I notice what is going on with you type.

Sensitive ,.... not as more emotional but as allowing,... able to accept and appreciate and honor others where they are.

Will try to meet each individual where they are.

Will resist telling you what to do, believing that your doing is the learning you need most.

Does not believe he knows what is best for you and believes thinking so is a matter of hubris to be avoided. But will make the mistake of believing his knows.

What you believe, he believes is personal, not to be infringed upon by force or persuasion.  As is also what he believes personal and expects the same freedoms in reverse.

Can make a women feel feminine, loved, secure and appreciated even though he is not sexually attracted and maybe even inspite of being sexually attracted!

Knows how to lead AND knows how to follow.

If you have his love he will lay down his life for you.  He will insert himself doing what he does best trying to make things better for you.  He will not do what you think is best but only what he does best.

His love is not to answer your every whim. When you use him for every small thing He resents you because he knows there is no hero in those small things.  He wants to be your hero not your man-servant. He wants to be on a mission worthy of his love.  Sorry, but re-arranging you furniture yet again does not qualify as a mission to him.  But sometimes it might if it is his idea.  I mean one he thinks is going to solve a problem he sees.