Not making room for another in your life.
Sometime literally, like encouraging your man to throw out/get rid of his stuff because it does not match your sense of beauty. This is a failure to accept the other person as they are. This can translate I'm reject some of your stuff thus I'm rejecting part of you. Men to this to, not appreciating her stuff because it is not functional? efficient? in some way not measuring up to his standards.
Wanting it to be all your way.
A variation of the first. Compromise, good enough, and win win are all examples of different ways to accomplish togetherness without driving the other away.
Micro managing rather micro goal setting.
Telling the other exactly this happens because it is way easier to tell someone to do it like you do it than to figure out what are the absolutely essential goals versus merely important goals.
Choosing Work over partner too many times.
If you are regularly choosing work over your partner then you are communicating what is most important to you. Sure work makes life go around because of the money and thus security it provides. And you have to work. But if you keep making that choice over and over it cam undermine the connection between you.
These are the same mistakes strong men make.
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