Men can get hooked on physical attraction.
Women can get hooked on emotional attraction.
Asking women to give up their emotional body is as unnatural as it is to to ask men to stop looking at the physical body. Both are deeply implanted, maybe even genetic, behavior patterns. They have a work for ages in advertising and attracting a mate. Just because somebody becomes spiritual, religious or Enlightened, does not mean these deeply embedded traits go away.
There is one segment of the feminist movement that would condemn men for this trait.
And yes there is a segment of men who unrealistically expect women to give up their emotional body.
Since I don't see either of these expectations to be realistic outcomes, I want to ask, what are realistic expectations.
Clearly women want to be valued for more than just their body. And men want to be valued for more than their resources.
Recognizing and celebrating your differences. . .
Women are usually more concerned with physical sensations and feeling love. Women tend to value feeling secure and receiving attention. Knowing this helps understand why more women are attracted to yoga, dance and soap operas. Don't make her wrong for this. Instead encourage her to participate in life in those areas that feed her/nourish her. But also don't expect him to enjoy what brings you alive.
Men are usually are more concerned with status and mental thought. Men tend to value status and feeling success. Knowing this helps us understand why more men are attracted to competition, racing and arguing about rules. Don't make him wrong for this. Instead encourage him to participate in life in those areas that feed him/nourish him. But also don't expect her to enjoy what brings you alive.
When she gets triggered she throws up on me emotionally. Yes. That the way she works. It is not your job to confront, stop it, or try to fix her. It is your job to weather the storm, to stay solid in your love for her, to not run away. If you do not take it personally, if you allow it roll off you and not get hooked into it you will become more valuable to her. She can be who she is and not fear making you leave. (security)
When he gets triggered he throws anger at me Yes. That the way he works. It is not your job to confront him, stop him or fix him. It is your job to weather the storm, to stay solid in your self worth, to not make him wrong for having anger. If physical danger is involved you must protect yourself, and remove yourself. If you do not make him wrong for experiencing anger, if you allow him to constructively work through it you will become more valuable to him. He can be who he is and not fear NOT making you happy. (failing with you).
Obsession
Mission, #1
Alpha
submissive
ego
emotions
Men leave for many many reasons
Men cheat for many many reasons
Attempts to reduce actions to ONE rational reason are false conclusions
