MEN need to...

learn to not always need space ...to communiate clearly ... hold space for their partner ... get curious about how she works ... get curious about how YOU work ... receive external feedback ... when to surrender ... what is their bonding method ... consider and take action on the needs of others ... stop using logivc to control women or get their way ... manage their ego in a healthy way

Women need to ...

learn to be more direct in asking for what they need/want/desire from men. criticizism does not work with men. passive agressive does not work. :earning to be aware of what they need and ask. Balance emotion with logic Be happy for no reason not rely on a partner to make them happy know what turns them on comminucate that ... stop using emotions to control men and get their way ... mamage their emotions in a healthy way

Gender gap expectations

Men marry women expecting they WILL never chamge. Because men do not change much. Women marry men dexpecting they WILL change. Because womem do change.

Insecurity

One hidden relationship killer is your insecurties.
You think you are ok, and your are until something triggers your insecurity.
For her it is doubting her self worth? For him it is doubting his confidence?

If either of you latch on to a relationship to coverup your insecurities, you will only experience them later when some trigger comes up. She might use loving someone to offset her lowself esteem. He might use work to offset his low self respect. Either way it is a long cut to relationship problems.

One where you get to use the other person as an escaoegoat for not seeing your own issue.

shoes over character NO

If he or she is going to make how you dress more important than who you are. They are NOT for you. Sure it's important to be clean not dirty, fresh not stinky, appropriate not off putting. But iot even more important how you treat people, how you react under stress, how you gently handle problem people and situations. If you are judged as not good enough because you wore socks with your sandles. Move on. She or he is not looking past the surface.

How to enter every relationsahip: Friend, lover, business, teacher, student

I've been bothered by a statement there was nothing good about X.Y.Z. It reflects a getting full of expectations. What cvan I learn.

Dating failures, relationship learnings

If your reason for dating is to get something you don't have you are missing the growth possible. If your reason for dating is learn from a relationship about who you are you will maximize the growth. If your reason for hsving a friend is to avoid being alone you are missing the growth. If your reason for having a friend is to learn about yourself you will grow. It seems many people think relationahips are not about learning. People do not seem to look at relationships as places to learn. But if you look at every experience as an opportunity to learn, no experience is a failure. Learning is often relegated to certain places and times. Taking on the role of teaching can be limiting your ability to learn. Teachers that are learning (being students themselves) make the best teachers. Why is approaching everything as an opportunity to learn a maximal way to live? Because instead of experiencing failures we experience learning. The feeling of failure is disempowering. The feeling of learning is empowering.