women need to undertand

Mem have thoughts (Logic) and need reapect respecting their thoughts (logic) is not a small thing

men need to understand

Women have emotions and need reassurance emotions are not small things to be overlooked

LOVE bonding differences

Women bond through caring and sharing eventually emotions get involved snd they call it love when this engages, women are willing to sacrifice themselves for you Men bond through competing and beating eventually emotions get involved snd they call it the brotherhood when this engages, men are willing to sacrifice themselves for you Women are expecting men to fall in love like they do and it is creating expectaation thty do not match where men are in ther bonding to their mate. It is projection at work.

MEN need to...

learn to not always need space ...to communiate clearly ... hold space for their partner ... get curious about how she works ... get curious about how YOU work ... receive external feedback ... when to surrender ... what is their bonding method ... consider and take action on the needs of others ... stop using logivc to control women or get their way ... manage their ego in a healthy way

Women need to ...

learn to be more direct in asking for what they need/want/desire from men. criticizism does not work with men. passive agressive does not work. :earning to be aware of what they need and ask. Balance emotion with logic Be happy for no reason not rely on a partner to make them happy know what turns them on comminucate that ... stop using emotions to control men and get their way ... mamage their emotions in a healthy way

Gender gap expectations

Men marry women expecting they WILL never chamge. Because men do not change much. Women marry men dexpecting they WILL change. Because womem do change.

Insecurity

One hidden relationship killer is your insecurties.
You think you are ok, and your are until something triggers your insecurity.
For her it is doubting her self worth? For him it is doubting his confidence?

If either of you latch on to a relationship to coverup your insecurities, you will only experience them later when some trigger comes up. She might use loving someone to offset her lowself esteem. He might use work to offset his low self respect. Either way it is a long cut to relationship problems.

One where you get to use the other person as an escaoegoat for not seeing your own issue.

shoes over character NO

If he or she is going to make how you dress more important than who you are. They are NOT for you. Sure it's important to be clean not dirty, fresh not stinky, appropriate not off putting. But iot even more important how you treat people, how you react under stress, how you gently handle problem people and situations. If you are judged as not good enough because you wore socks with your sandles. Move on. She or he is not looking past the surface.

How to enter every relationsahip: Friend, lover, business, teacher, student

I've been bothered by a statement there was nothing good about X.Y.Z. It reflects a getting full of expectations. What cvan I learn.