Healing, yourself first as proxy for healing the world

 Healing your self first seems selfish, maybe even egotistical.

But it is a spiritual principle of the highest nature from some of the highest dimensions.

Gandi summed it up nicely as:....,  BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE.

Now in more detail here's an on ground look.

When you see or feel a non-loving emotion from interactions with the world.  This is an alert for healing attention on it and yourself.  An alarm clock of sorts.

How to heal is a different set of posts.

Once healed in you that healing is accessible by others who are working to raise/grow their own consciousness.  It is not automatically used or available to everyone for there is free will.  They have to seek and accept.  By healing yourself you make the energy of that healing more present in the consciousness of your world.  Every person that heals that same non-loving emotion creates greater energy for other to access it.  It is made more widely available.  More accessible.

Thus by serving yourself you are serving others.  So it is not a service to self act.  It is not if negative polarity if your intent is to better your world.   However if you intent is to horde all healings and the results of them for just you and to garner power over others then you are on the negative path.

If you then help others heal the same the ripples go even further.

The evolved female

Some think they want to be wined and dined 

Some think they want to be a princess

Some think they want chemistry, excitement, even drama.

None of these are evolved women.

None these are what you want if you are an evolved man.

The evolve female is ok with the direct approach,  but you better be ok with a direct answer.

She is able to see positive aspects to all people and events.

She seeks personal growth not growth of things.

She seeks balance not polarity.

Most women that give you advice on what women want have not done the work to know what they want.

The evolved female no longer wants what her younger self wanted.

Balances responsibility with spontaneity

If she has not broken out of her past programming she is likely not evolved.

The evolve female decides what is healthy for her and does the best to keep it.

It all boils down to this....

All the dating gurus and advice that promises control, power over others, or ways you can manipulate your way into the opposite sexes life is worthless if you are following the way of the positive polarity of serving others.   However, if you are into self serving and increasing your negative polarity then these methods are for you.

Wanting control is for those who feel as if they do not have it but want it.

Manipulation is clear self serving and for those who have little to no confidence in their own worth.

Power same as control.......is for those who feel as if they do not have it but want it.

Those who want an great match for them are ok with rejection because they know it brings them one step closer to their goal.  Each one that does not work out is recognition of what does not work.

Be careful of those selling techniques.  There are many promises the prey on your temporal desires.

When your goal is to grow rather than get something.  Then every experience becomes opportunity to learn about your self.

If the dating gurus are talking about possession or being possessed this is the path of the negative polarity (service to self).  The opposite path is the one of guaranteeing free will.